There are many difficult tasks in the world, one of which is child rearing. Most parents are busy raising their children and fulfilling all their desires. The mine of dreams is all over their eyes - their child will one day fulfill that dream and increase their status in the society.
When planning so much, I want extra care for the good of the child. His food, sleep, health, education, marriage - he is a great sacrifice! All parents want their child to be happy and prosperous in the next life.
But family, environmental, psychological and economic factors also act as important regulators behind the child's growth.
So it is often the case that despite the unlimited care and attention of parents, many children do not have much success in their personal lives when they grow up. Again, despite being born into extreme deprivation, many children once found great success by crossing their own small boundaries.
But does parental care play a role in the child's development? Of course there are, but that care can be lost due to some daily misbehavior of every parent towards the child.
No parent wants their child to grow up to be a failure. They always want their child to grow up with security. Because he has a future ahead of him.
It is good to think about safety, especially when your child is a child. Then there is a real need for extra security.
But as the child continues to grow, he no longer has to worry about his safety. It's a balanced behavior, because as he gets older, he learns to understand his own safety.
A small child may move forward if he sees a fire, but as he gets older, he will realize that the fire is dangerous for him. You do not have to say that there is danger in the fire! This is how the matter of balance develops.
But in reality, the way parents used to keep an eye on their children for safety reasons, they continue to do so even after the child grows up. They deal with hundreds of things like what he will do or not do, who he will mix with, what he will eat or not eat, what he will wear or not wear. It is necessary in moderation.
But many parents also start interfering in the child's private life in the name of 'safety'. They don’t want to understand, their child is growing up. Something is developing as his own, some of his dreams are being created, maybe he has a goal in life like himself. But in the name of so-called security, you are not making the future of the child miserable?
A 2011 study from the University of Tennessee found that children who remain under tight security after a young age go through later stages of self-centeredness, over-awareness, and break-up. He made wrong decisions step by step as he did not develop the mindset to make decisions from an early age. Two important things like individuality and self-reliance are missing in him.
He does not have self-confidence like others. Which affected his whole life.
But he needed to be taught how to make his own decisions. How to make personal likes and dislikes more effective, mutual respect, the practice of values built into it. Only then will the child always have the strength to become a fully successful person from his own position.
Child abuse is a very common image in our society. It is true that parents are concerned about their children's actions because they want the best for them.
When they are young, they will do mischief, depending on their nature or type of sport. So sometimes they may do something that is beyond your tolerance. You don't think for the second time and say, "It's been a long time; today is your day or mine"! This is what you say!
Many parents have a bad habit of cursing their children when they are a little sideways. This is a very bad thing. You want the best for your child, then you get angry and say, "You can't do anything in life"!
Basically, the way parents treat their children determines how the child will fare in the future. The child can be scolded. But are you blabbering on like this, or are you blabbering on like this?
The words you utter can make him more stubborn without correcting him, can create emotional distance between you and the child, can create a mentality of not consulting inside him. Such issues have come up again and again in research.